I realized I’ve been looking at this entire comedy thing very differently.
Until now, whenever someone asked me what I felt about the entire conversation around misery birthing comedy, I held a very strong opinion. I believed that tragedy was the only way to become funnier and the more your life got fucked up, the better you became as a comic. The more you had to vent and talk about, the more material you got.
This delusion grew so strong over time that in a very sad but true way, I started craving misery. Every time something bad happened, instead of dealing with it as a normal human being, I tried writing jokes about it. Instead of sitting down, feeling what I truly felt, and making peace with it. I made it a piece for stage.
As most people would say, that’s the exact reason art exists and this what it means to express. The entire beauty of the stage is to help you deal with the bad shit in your life and make you get over it by joking about it. Well, is it though? Is it imperative to have more bad experiences to get better at what you do? Or more importantly is it the only way?
Here’s what happened. Life changed and a lot of things led me to realizing that I was very bottled up as a person. Years of suppressing what I actually feel under the pretense of making fun of it, made me push down my emotions. I was really not over anything I was talking about on stage. In fact, I had tricked myself so smartly to repeat the same things that affected me as jokes every time I got up there, but still ignore the matter completely in real life. We as comics think laughing over it, means it’s over. We don’t realize that we use the stage as an escape to not feel anything in its entirety. Whether that’s sadness, anger, jealousy, whatever. We sometimes save up what we should’ve felt in reality to joke about it in front of strangers who have no idea about the depth of what you’re making fun of.
I’m not saying don’t express. That isn’t the point. All I’m saying is, don’t escape. Use the stage to laugh about what happened, not ignore what needs attention. Because craving more misery might increase the length of your set, but once you’re off that stage and the crowd’s gone home. Will you truly be a happy person? Not happy cause you had a great set. Happy knowing that however your set did, life on the outside, the rest 23 hours and 30 minutes of your life are fine. Will you be happier crying about something that hurt you, giving it time to heal and then writing about it in retrospect to feel good? Or Will you be happier shutting off from what’s there to deal with because it’s the tougher thing to do and hit an open mic to rant about it ? Honestly, it’s a choice. It’s also a choice we can make any time. Because if you work hard enough and are a funny person, you’ll eventually headline a show and get big, but when your glory days are over, would you have healed?
Choose. Choose, if you want to be a stereotypical comic who hates his/her life and enjoys how good it is for life to get fucked up, only to to spend time with other comics who might be using this also as an escape. Or if you want to take the harder way of being a human who loves doing comedy and makes stage a reflection of your happy self only to present a fun perspective about what you’re done dealing with.
But, just remember. It’s a choice.
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P.S Don’t listen to Snape.